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沟通是最重要的!
我在美国读大一的时候住校,室友就是美国人,她在一段时间里男朋友放假了就直接带到我们宿舍房间,晚上也住在一起,对于我来讲和一个素不相识的异性在宿舍里过夜我很不舒服,更不用提下课回宿舍开门看到室友和她男朋友卿卿我我。
但是这种现象在美国大学是很常见的,即使是宿管也不会对此有所批评,但是对于留学生而言会觉得太开放,最重要的是和室友沟通,告诉室友你的文化背景和认知会使室友的部分行为让你觉得不舒服,通过合理的解释之后,大部分的美国室友都会表示理解,就不会带男女朋友在宿舍里来。实在不行,就告知宿管,毕竟你也是交了钱的,可以让宿管去进行沟通
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At
home
in
the
United
Kingdom,
and
in
many
other
countries
around
the
world,
it
is
much
more
common
for
students
living
on
campus
to
have
their
own
bedrooms;
but
in
the
U.S.,
one
of
the
most
common
tropes
of
college
life
is
the
experience
of
having
a
roommate.
Roommate
culture
is
so
distinctly
American
that,
while
people
see
it
in
the
movies,
it
simultaneously
seems
a
totally
alien
practice.
The
reality
is
that
if
you
end
up
living
in
campus
housing,
you
will
probably
have
a
roommate
-
perhaps
more
than
one.
The
adjustment
to
having
to
accommodate
another
person
in
your
space
is
exacerbated
by
the
fact
that
these
rooms
aren't
all
that
big.
For
many,
the
idea
of
suddenly
being
expected
to
share
3
by
4
meters
of
space
–
about
10
by
13
feet
–
with
another
human
being
is
a
total
nightmare.
So
here
are
some
hints
on
roommate
politics
and
how
to
make
the
living
situation
work.
在英国或者其他国家,学生选择单间公寓是非常普遍的,但是在美国,更多的学生会选择双人公寓,甚至几个留学生住在一起。虽然生活方式不同,有可能产生矛盾,但这个是了解不同国家文化,认识新朋友的大好机会。以下是几个和外国室友相处的小方法:
1.
Communicate:
Nothing
can
be
more
awkward
than
sharing
a
living
and
sleeping
space
with
someone
you
don't
ever
speak
to.
With
the
roommate
-
perhaps
more
than
with
anyone
else
-
you
should
make
every
effort
to
chat
and
get
to
know
them.
The
more
you
know
each
other
and
find
points
in
common,
the
easier
it's
going
to
be
to
learn
to
share
your
space.
If
your
roommate
has
an
irritating
habit,
be
it
constantly
forgetting
to
empty
the
bins
or
staging
spontaneous
dance
parties
at
4
a.m.,
it's
far
better
to
(politely)
attempt
to
deal
with
it
early
on,
instead
of
just
gritting
your
teeth
and
hoping
it
eventually
stops.
1.
多沟通交流。再也没有比两个人住在同一屋檐下却不交流更加尴尬的事情了。多和室友交谈,了解他们,你了解你的室友越多,能够找到两个人的共同点,就越容易和其相处。如果你的室友有使人恼火的习惯,例如经常忘记清理垃圾箱、深更半夜开派对制造噪音等,遇到这些情况,与其咬牙切齿默默忍受,不如早点礼貌地说出自己的心声。
2.
Compromise:
It's
highly
unlikely
that
the
two
of
you
are
going
to
miraculously
have
the
same
living
habits,
and
a
lot
of
the
time
you're
going
to
have
to
meet
halfway.
I
am
an
early
bird
and
an
incredibly
light
sleeper.
My
roommate
likes
to
sit
up
until
3
a.m.
on
her
laptop
and
then
sleep
until
the
middle
of
the
day.
We
compromised,
and
she
dims
the
screen
light
on
her
computer
after
1
a.m.,
while
I
bought
a
sleeping
mask
and
agreed
to
only
raise
the
blinds
after
11
a.m.
Some
aspects
of
your
lifestyle,
while
delightful
at
home,
won't
apply
when
you
have
a
roommate.
You
need
to
be
willing
to
adapt.
2.
谅解和妥协。你和室友不可能生活习惯都一样,在自己看来没有多大问题的生活方式,室友可能会不适应,这时候要学会谅解和妥协。例如你是个早睡早起的人,而你的室友有可能会习惯半夜两三点才睡,中午才起床。这时你们可以商量找到一个折衷办法,相互调整配合。例如室友承诺在1点后把电脑屏幕亮度调暗不影响你的睡眠,你也要为了不影响室友睡觉,早上11点过后再打开窗帘。
3.
Spend
time
outside:
Everyone
has
days
when
they
just
want
to
sit
in
bed
and
eat
pizza,
but
the
best
way
to
be
relaxed
both
in
your
room
and
around
your
roommate
is
to
minimize
the
amount
of
time
you
spend
inside
those
four
walls.
Spending
too
much
time
in
such
a
small
place
can
start
to
feel
oppressive
-
treat
your
room
as
a
place
for
sleep
and
occasional
studying.
If
you
give
each
other
space,
you
are
less
likely
to
stress
each
other
out.
3.
不要经常呆在宿舍里。把宿舍当做是休息和偶尔学习的地方,而不要整天窝在宿舍里,这样会感到压抑。同时,多出去走走,给室友一点空间。适当的距离、空间和隐私可以减少矛盾,两人相处的压力也会减少。
4.
Learn
from
each
other:
At
UC—Berkeley's
International
House,
the
rule
is
that
you
can't
share
a
room
with
a
person
from
your
own
country.
I
think
this
rule
is
a
great
one
-
and
whether
you
end
up
sharing
with
a
fellow
international
student
or
an
American,
living
together
is
a
wonderful
opportunity
to
learn
a
lot
about
a
new
and
a
different
culture.
Throughout
my
year
in
the
International
House,
most
people
have
ended
up
getting
on
famously
with
their
roommates.
I
have
had
two
while
staying
in
America,
both
very
different,
but
both
fabulous,
and
I
am
very
glad
I
decided
to
try
sharing
a
room
out.
Of
course
lots
of
campus
housing
options
do
offer
single
rooms
for
students
who
don't
want
to
share
–
but
my
advice
would
be
to
try
the
roommate
experience.
With
any
luck
you'll
come
out
of
it
with
a
great
friend.
4.
相互学习。发现并学习室友的优点,而且和来自不同国家的室友同一宿舍是个认识了解其它国家文化的好机会。加州大学伯克利分校的留学生公寓就有一个规定:不可以和来自同一国家的同学住在一个宿舍。
这起发生在美国宾夕法尼亚的中国留学生向黑人室友投毒铊的案件,让人不禁把它与曾经沸沸扬扬的“朱令”案联想在了一起,朱令在1992年考入清华大学,先后在1994年,1995年被人投毒重金属铊,造成全身瘫痪,脑神经严重受损,此案最终没有找到嫌疑人,不了了之。
铊属于放射性的高危重金属,毒性强于铅和汞,只需要一克就可以让人死亡。在这起宾州的案件中,嫌疑人杨宇楷承认自己购买了重金属铊,先后投放在室友罗亚尔的事物和漱口水中。罗亚尔出现了两次严重病情,长时间的呕吐,在短时间内体重减轻了20磅,还出现了心悸,后来经过医生诊断他是因为铊中毒,对这个结果罗亚尔和他的家人都非常的震惊,他表示和室友杨宇楷的关系是融洽的,他不明白对方为什么要这么做,目前罗亚尔还在接受治疗。根据美国法律,杨宇楷可能将要面临6到20年的监禁。
同样与此类似的案件是在2013年4月,上海复旦大学的林森浩向室友黄洋投毒N-二甲基亚硝胺,造成对方死亡,据他自己供述,完全就是因为一些琐事而对黄洋怀恨在心,进而做出这种令人发指的事情,毁了别人,也毁了自己,2015年,林森浩29岁被执行了死刑。
且不论至今仍然引起热议的“朱令”案,还是宾州投毒案以及黄洋案,其性质有多么恶劣,很多人实在想不通到底是多大的恨,或者嫉妒,会让这些青年学生做出这等事,没错,他们是给别人投毒了,但是早就中毒的是他们自己——心毒,被扭曲的心毒侵蚀到丧失人性,一个在罪恶中,在强加给别人的痛苦中寻找快乐的人,他已经失去了做人的资格。
支持,老美,你去那边学语言的话,越多和美国人交流月对你有帮助,到不是因为种族歧视原因吧,只要是室友,无论哪个国家的,肯定对那个人有个别不适应的地方, 小事情看开些,人家肯定对亚洲人的有些生活方式也不是很适应,总之我觉得美国人一般大大咧咧的,挺好,反正过去之后越少和中国人说汉语就是对你最好的。
杀害俞琪的人是她的男性舍友董硕,董硕之所杀害了俞琪仅仅是因为俞琪知道他的学生签证过期了,害怕俞琪举报自己,他宁愿杀人,也不愿意回国。
随着我国经济的发展,人们生活水平的提高,出国留学的学生越来越多,澳洲是出国留学的选择之一,俞琪是在澳洲的一位出国留学生,2009年俞琪来到了澳洲,在新南威尔士大学完成电子工程本科和电信硕士的学习。俞琪已经在澳洲呆了好几年,她也从没有想到有一天自己会年纪轻轻去世于异国他乡。
杀害余琪的叫董硕,董硕是俞琪的男性室友,其其他舍友称,俞琪被害前一晚上和董硕因为房租以及短租约一事发生了争执。之后警方通过俞琪的手机记录找到了俞琪的尸体,随着警方更深入的调查,发现了董硕的嫌疑最大,将其捉拿审讯,董硕也很快就承认了自己的犯罪事实。
董硕为什么要杀害俞琪,原因让人后背发麻。仅仅是因为余琪发现了他的学生签证过期了,董硕害怕俞琪举报自己,便先以自己过几天搬走拖住她,俞琪还给他退了两个星期的房租,但是董硕呢?这期间他的网页搜索内容是关于“澳洲凶杀案如何判刑”“国际谋杀在澳洲会判多久”等等,而且他还做了缜密的计划。
董硕认为澳洲没有死刑,把他关进监狱就可以一辈子留在澳洲了,他宁愿杀人入狱,也不愿意回国,这是什么心态?可是监狱的日子是他想象的那样好吗?他入狱后,称自己患有精神病,董硕的鉴定结果无法断定他是否患有精神病,即使董硕真的有精神病,也不能以此作为他杀人的借口,他毁掉的是一个美满幸福的家庭。
都说了大大咧咧,肯定没注意这些小事啊,要不就明说,要不就继续,你照顾他的他不也回报给你了吗
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